Current Mood: Not decided yet.
Current Song: Water Runs Dry by Boyz II Men
A fellow blogger buddy of mine, Grace Boyle, wrote about the need to say “No” more in her blog this week. She’s one of those people who is always active, and so I can see how “Yes” is part of her regular vocabulary, and that saying a true “No” can sometimes be a challenge.
I face the exact opposite problem: I say no too often. Sometimes it’s not that I don’t have the will or time to do it. It’s just where I come from. Sometimes I’m afraid I’ll run out of energy or motivation. Other times, I just don’t know what my schedule will allow. Like most introverts, I like space between events, so I’m energetic enough to follow through. There have been occasions where I overextend myself and do too many things in one day – and I enjoy none of them in the end. It’s exhausting.
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This really mostly pertains to social events. I’m starting to realize that hiding from the general public is not conducive to opportunity, and so I need to work on being able to say yes more often.
I love helping when I can, especially when it’s people who I love and care for. I’m just not always available. “No” often keeps us from moving forward and finding out new things about the world and ourselves. I’ve always been good at modulating myself – now is a good time to step out of the box.
Are you a yes person or a no person? What do you need to work on?
Isn’t that funny? We need to give more of each other our no / yes
Good for you to standing up and decidedly trying something new. Whatever our thing may be, it’s not easy to make that pivot but I already feel better about having written it and just said it out loud.
Best of luck in yours xo
Thanks, Grace! Perhaps we can keep each other accountable this year
It’s definitely difficult to go in the other direction from what you’ve been doing for so long (I might have to ask you some advice), but yes, I think it’s a move towards more balance. Ditto – let us know how it’s going!
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OMGoddess! This is a *wonderful* perspective, Mehnaz! I share the same challenge as Grace – that of saying NO more often. My awareness is that when I say NO more often, I have the energy to say only YES when it feels right! My mantra for 2012 is BALANCE! Thanks for this discussion!
That’s a great way of putting it! I think it is all about balance in the end, and the ability to pick and choose your commitments and what’s good for you fully. Thanks so much for commenting